How to approach suffering and difficulties using Paul Gilbert's Compassion Focused Therapy approach:
“This is a moment of suffering, suffering is part of life (how many others might be experiencing similar suffering in this moment?), may I be kind to myself in this moment, may I give myself the compassion I need.”
“If I was at my compassionate best, if I was at my wisest, my strongest, and my most committed to try to address this in the wisest way I can, how would I approach this difficulty?”
Andy and I have been busy providing training on Psychologically Informed Environments (PIE) to a number of organisations over the past few months. It is such as pleasure to meet people who are committed to making a positive difference in the lives of the people they are working with and a great reminder that humans are full of compassion and kindness, despite what the mainstream media might have us believe.. Although we are covering the same learning points in the workshops, every session feels different because they are brought alive by the personal experiences of the delegates and the life of projects where they work. It is also lovely to get positive feedback about the training on the feedback forms.
""I really enjoyed the course content and the way it was presented was excellent - really useful." PIE training delegate August 2017
This week I attended a workshop with Dan Siegel and Paul Gilbert and left feeling hugely inspired. The clip below shows Dan Siegel describing his hand model of the brain demonstrating the importance of developing our capacities for empathy and compassion in order to regulate our emotion.
If you can sit quietly after difficult news, if in financial downturns you remain perfectly calm, if you can see your neighbours travel to fantastic places without a twinge of jealousy, if you can happily eat whatever is put on your plate, and fall asleep after a day of running around without a drink or a pill,… if you can always find contentment just where you are, you are probably a dog.
“In the end, just three things matter:
How well we have lived
How well we have loved
How well we have learned to let go”
― Jack Kornfield (author of A Path with Heart)